How social media gave me autism

I've enjoyed many benefits from social media. New friends, business leads, and great knowledge are some of the most tangible, but the thing I least expected to get is one of the most rewarding.

Last year, I connected with Robert Moran on Twitter (a.k.a. @aspiejourno). I traded occasional tweets with him about journalism, grammar, and TV; he was funny, smart, and likable. Robert quickly became one of my favorite people on Twitter.

One day, Robert and I had an awkward exchange and I visited his Twitter bio to refresh my memory on what this guy's background was. Turns out Robert has autism and Asperger Syndrome. I hadn't even realized it.

In the months that followed, I read Robert's incredibly candid tweets about the challenges that autism brings. He sometimes had what he calls meltdowns, he was occasionally so blunt in his tweets that it made me gasp, he shared blog posts about his life and how autism affected his interactions with people. I read and I learned.

Robert was so incredibly engaging and personable that I wanted to understand how to best interact with him. I soon learned that he's uncomfortable being touched, so I never hugged him hello when I saw him at tweet-ups. I came to understand that autistics frequently lack a self-editing button in their brains so they can sometimes be incredibly frank, which many people perceive as rude. I also learned that Robert forms bonds very quickly, which he says scares people away.

Robert Moran speaks with moderator Stacey Soleil at #140conf
I've known Robert for about 10 months now and today I was happy to share a very special day with him. He was one of the featured speakers at the 140 Characters Conference on Twitter (#140conf) that I attended at Los Angeles' Music Box Theater. Robert addressed hundreds of social media devotees and shared how Twitter has brought him out of his shell and into a community. He shed light on how Autistics think and act, and I learned yet another helpful bit of information. He has a hard time understanding sarcasm. Sarcasm is a major part of my DNA, so going forward I'll be sure to remember that when he and I speak or tweet.

One of the best things about social media, in my opinion, is that you are exposed to new people, folks you may have never met were it not for the social web. New ideas, different lifestyles, unique personalities. It's all out there, if you want to see it. And, maybe, if you open your mind--and your heart--wide enough, you'll meet someone who changes you for the better. Robert is one of those people.

Congratulations on your conference speaking debut, Robert. I'm proud to know you.

13 comments:

  1. Amber, this is a wonderful follow up to Robert's #140conf talk. Thank you so much for your willingness to learn & share about Autism and for your consistent support and love. I adore you! -xo

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  2. Amber, this is a great writeup about such a wonderful person. I enjoyed hearing them speak and learned a lot about autism and Robert himself. Thanks for sharing this.

    It was also great to see you again.

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  3. This post was very enlightening; and you are a splendid person Amber.

    Claudia - flavorsandmemories.com

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  4. Great post Amber! Robert was AMAZING up there! As per your request, here is the link to the audio I took of his conversation with @StaceySoleil. Feel free to include it in your post if you'd like: http://bit.ly/dsEUkb

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  5. Stacey: Thanks for all you do and for always using your voice for good.

    Sukhraj: Thanks for commenting. It was wonderful to see Robert up there. He's a great spokesperson who we can all learn from.

    Anonymous: Thank you, Claudia! I appreciate you taking the time to visit and comment ;->

    Jeffrey: Thank you so much for leaving the link to the audio you captured! Folks, if you click on the link in Jeffrey's comment, it will go to the full audio of the panel. Thanks, Jeff!

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  6. Jeffrey: Thank you so much for leaving the link to the audio you captured! Folks, if you click on the link in Jeffrey's comment, it will go to the full audio of the panel. Thanks, Jeff!

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  7. Anonymous: Thank you, Claudia! I appreciate you taking the time to visit and comment ;->

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  8. Sukhraj: Thanks for commenting. It was wonderful to see Robert up there. He's a great spokesperson who we can all learn from.

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  9. Stacey: Thanks for all you do and for always using your voice for good.

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  10. For those who have not seen the panel discussion here is a link to it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFU4GqN4PPA

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  11. Robert, I'm so glad the video is available now! Thanks for sharing the link with us! And, again, congratulations on the fabulous job you did on the panel!

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  12. When I saw your title I was a little bit put off.  I have a child with autism.  But I like what you wrote and it makes me happy that someone is taking the time to understand Robert's point of view.  Thank you from a mom.

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  13. Hi Dixie! Thanks for reading. Spending time with Robert, online and off, has been a wonderful learning experience. He's funny, bright, and a gentlemen.

    Thanks for reading. And for the mom thumbs up ;-)

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